The Mirror Test

The Single Most Honest Thing You Can Do for Your Love Life

If you're single in Nashville and frustrated, you're not alone. But before you blame the apps, the city, or the flaky texters — We want to offer you something different.

We are calling it The Mirror Test.

This simple mindset shift can change your dating life. Why? Because your thoughts create your actions, and your actions shape your results. The Mirror Test helps you become aware of your inner dialogue — especially the negative — and challenge it with honesty and curiosity.

Here’s how it goes:

When you're tempted to point outward, pause and look inward.

Ask yourself:

What’s my role in this pattern?

Where am I contributing to my frustration?

Let’s break it down:

You say, “It’s so hard to find a partner.”

Mirror Test: How can people find you? Are you trying all avenues? Are you giving your best effort? Are you ready to be a partner — not just to have one?

These questions open doors, not dead ends.

You’re upset about ghosting.

Mirror Test: Have I ever ghosted someone?

Be honest. If yes, commit to doing it differently. Offer a kind closeout message next time. That tiny act shifts your dating energy.

You say, “Why do I keep attracting scammers?”

Mirror Test: Where am I scamming myself?

Are you cutting corners, ignoring red flags, not giving your love life the time and intention it deserves?

You get numbers, but no one replies.

Mirror Test: How am I showing up?

Am I creating a friendly connection before asking? Am I making it easy for people to say yes to being around me?

This isn’t about blame — it’s about having a self-awareness power. The moment you take responsibility and start asking better questions, your love life transforms.

The Mirror Test shows you where your opportunity is. And that, my friend, is where real matchmaking starts: not with finding “the one,” but becoming the version of you that attracts them.

We get it — not everyone out there knows how to date well. That’s real. But instead of accepting that as the norm, let’s raise the bar. Let’s be the reason dating gets better. Let's be the new trend: better daters creating better relationships.

Try The Mirror Test this week. With honesty. With love. With the belief that growth leads to great things.

And if you want support along the way, I’m right here.

Because love starts with you.

— Nashville’s Go to Matchmaker