Gender Wars, Algorithms, and the Love Rebellion We Need
You know I keep my finger on the pulse of dating culture. And lately? The internet feels like one big gender war.
Every scroll on TikTok or Instagram throws us into the battle of the sexes: clips of men saying women don’t bring value to relationships, women saying men are emotionally unavailable, and a lot of finger-pointing disguised as advice. Honestly? It ticks me off and motivates me to speak up!
What’s troubling is that these viral opinions are shaping how people date and hindering their chances at love.
We’re watching people build entire belief systems off 30-second hot takes from strangers with ring lights. The algorithm favors outrage, and suddenly everyone thinks their bad date last week is proof that all men or all women are broken.
But you and I both know the truth: what we consume shapes what we expect and determines what we allow.
Even in my own Facebook group, Singles in Nashville — where rule #1 is positivity — I see posts slipping into this narrative. It’s tough to witness. I don’t judge, and I know people need to express themselves. But I also deeply wish more of us paused to rethink our information diet. What are we feeding our hearts and minds? Who are we letting guide our expectations and actions?
So what’s the cost of this online gender war?
Men feel attacked and withdraw.
Women feel exhausted and guarded.
No one feels seen or safe.
The result? Fewer connections, more performance. Less dating, more debate.
As a professional dating coach and matchmaker in Nashville, let me remind you: love doesn’t grow on battlefields. It grows in spaces where trust, curiosity, gratitude, and grace are alive, where we take off the armor and show up with effort.
Here’s the mindset shift I’m inviting you into:
Let’s stop absorbing the fear-based narratives.
Let’s start choosing content (and people) that leave us better, not bitter.
Let’s remember that real love starts with how you choose to relate.
You don’t need to pick a side. You need a strategy that works and helps you grow.
And if you are tired of the noise and ready for clarity, you can book a Love Launch Hour, or join one of my coaching memberships — Daters Society (group-based) or the 1:1 Dating Mentoring program. Either way, we’ll get your mindset aligned with the kind of love you want.
Because while the internet is busy arguing, we’re busy creating real relationships over here. And trust me, they’re worth it.